From the Assistant Principal
Important dates for Term 2
- 25 June: 7-11 Parent/student/teacher interviews 4pm-7pm
- 25 June: Last day of classes for students
- 26 June: 7-11 Parent/student/teacher interviews 9am-3pm
Important dates for Term 3
- 13 July: School resumes for Term 3- Full Winter Uniform
- 14 & 15 July: HSC Performing Arts Showcase. 6.30-9pm
- 17 July: S1 Academic Awards
- Years 7-9: 9:00- 10:30
- Years 10-12: 11:00-12:30
Tutoring will resume for Term 3 in Week 3. In Weeks 1 and 2, tutoring has been reserved for Year 12 in preparation for their Trial HSC.
Girls are reminded that the Library will be open until 4.00p.m. for private study.
Why friendships are important
Having good friendships improves self-esteem and wellbeing. Throughout High School is it not uncommon for students to move in and out of friendships and friendship groups and the College works with students to support them as they negotiate friendships. A great friend supports us through good times and bad, however it is important that students know not every friend brings out the best in them. It is important that students learn how to work through ending a friendship, maintain good friendships and deal with tough times, while maintaining respectful and productive relationships.
Friends will come and go in life, but more important than how long a friendship lasts, is that a good friend will love you for who you are. The way you can tell the sign of a good friend is by looking at the actions they take, big and small that show they care.
Some common signs of a good friend include:
- someone who will support you no matter what
- someone you can trust and who won’t judge you
- someone who won’t put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings
- someone who is kind and has respect for you
- someone who will love you because they choose to, not because they feel like they should
- someone whose company you enjoy
- showing loyalty
- being trustworthy and willing to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard
- someone who can laugh when you do
- someone who is willing to stick around when things get tough
We challenge students at the College to live by our motto when relating to each other: To Act Justly and Love Tenderly. I have added below five tips that I have found useful when working with students to assist them in developing positive friendships:
Listen. Don’t underestimate the importance of listening. The best way to listen is to try and understand the situation from your friends’ point of view. If you aim to do this, you’ll naturally find yourself beginning to ask the right sort of questions and they will appreciate having someone who really cares about how they feel and what they’re going through. You don’t have to have all the answers, and you shouldn’t assume your friend wants advice – they might just want to talk so that they can work out what they’re going to do themselves.
Ask them what they need. If you’re worried about someone and you want to be there for them, just ask them what they need- that way you know what they find helpful during tough times, and you can be there in a way that’s most useful to them.
Tell them how you feel. You don’t have to make a big deal of it all the time but sometimes there are moments where letting someone know that they’re important to you through something you say, can make a big difference to how someone is feeling.
Get the facts. If your friend has a medical condition, or a mental health issue, a good way to offer support is to learn about what they’ve been diagnosed with. Taking an interest in what they’re going through shows that you care, and that you’re planning to stick around no matter what’s going on.
Be willing to make a tough call. If you think the safety of your friend is at risk, you might need to act without their consent and get help. It can be a hard choice particularly when you’re worried about their reaction, but remember that you are acting because you care and you don’t want them to be hurt.
I hope all the Bethany Community have a well deserved break over these holidays, and come back refreshed and ready to tackle term 3.