From the Assistant Principal
- Monday 11/12 Y7-11 Awards Ceremony and end of year Mass. Last day for students
- Wednesday 13/12: Y7-10 PTS Interviews
Top 10 Tips for parents to manage and communicate expectations about schoolwork and results
Parents often have high expectations of their children in relation to how much homework they will do, and what results they will achieve in their studies. Research shows that whilst parental expectations can play a significant part in children achieving high results, they can also contribute to high levels of student stress.
Some things to think about in relation to parental expectations include:
- Help your children to set goals: Keep talking to your children about what they want to achieve, in individual subjects, at school overall and in other aspects of their life. Make the goals SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely). The end of year report and parent teacher interview is a great opportunity to reflect and plan for next year… ask the questions/ discuss with teachers…
- Where are you now? (report)
- Where do you want to go? (set some SMART goals)
- How are you going to get there? (strategies discussed with the teacher)
- Be involved in your children’s learning: Throughout the term talk to your children about what they are studying. Help them plan their study and homework on a calendar. Talk about the goals they have set and how their strategies are working.
- Make sure you really communicate what you expect: Many students feel like they are not meeting their parents’ expectations. Remember to praise them for the effort they make rather than only the results they achieve, this way they are motivated to keep on trying, even when learning is difficult. Praise and reward them for achieving the goals they set for themselves along the way, not just the assessment mark they may get.
- Remember nobody is perfect: Even the brightest, most highly motivated child will struggle at times. They may struggle to understand a particular topic or concept, or they may struggle with motivation, particularly for a subject they don’t particularly enjoy.
- Provide practical homework and exam support: Provide practical help them to your children to enable them to access past papers or practise questions and work with them by things like proofreading and reviewing drafts, checking work and listening to speeches. Remember though, it is not your work, so don’t make changes, rather make suggestions and provide guidance.
- Spend time together doing something fun: Make sure your relationship with your child is about more than homework and study. Allocate some time to do fun things together. This is the time in which your child is most likely to open up to you about the things that they are struggling with and you can work out how best to help them. Ideas include going for a walk or run together, registering for a team sport, having a dinner date or going to a gallery or museum.
- Support your child to do their best: You can do this by providing healthy, nutrient rich food; opportunities for exercise, rest and relaxation and an environment which is supportive of and conducive to study. Spending time together, having fun and showing your interest all help support student achievement.
- Keep alert for the physical and mental signs of stress: Familiarise yourself with how your child responds to stress. Do they withdraw? Act out? Work harder or stop working? When you notice that your child is stressed provide them opportunities to discuss what is worrying them and work with them to identify how you can help them. There are many great free apps students can download to help deal with the stress and anxiety that sometimes comes with exams and assessment.