Volume 14 - 08 Sep 2017



In next Sunday’ Gospel, we hear from Matthew 18:15-20. In this passage, Jesus teaches his disciples how to settle disputes in the Church.

How can this reading be relevant in our family life?

Conflict and disagreements are a natural part of family life. Yet, within our family, we have an important opportunity to learn how to resolve disagreements fairly by treating people with love and respect.

As you gather as a family in the next two weeks, discuss the procedures for resolving disputes in your family. What kinds of things produce disagreements in your family? Do children frequently request the assistance of the adults when a disagreement arises? How do the adults respond? In Sunday’s Gospel, Jesus teaches his disciples the way in which they are to handle conflict within the Christian community of the Church. Read together this Gospel, Matthew 18:15-20. Invite family members to summarize the steps that Jesus proposes for resolving conflict. How might today’s Gospel inform your family’s handling of disagreements? If you have time, your family might choose to role play how Jesus’ teaching about conflict resolution might be applied to a disagreement that sometimes occurs in your household.

In today’s Gospel, Jesus also promises that he will help those who pray to him with their needs. Pray together that each member of your family will learn to handle conflict in a Christian manner. Pray together the Peace Prayer of Saint Francis.


Lord, make me an instrument of your peace:

where there is hatred, let me sow love;

where there is injury, pardon;

where there is doubt, faith;

where there is despair, hope;

where there is darkness, light;

where there is sadness, joy.

O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek

to be consoled as to console,

to be understood as to understand,

to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive,

it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,

and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.





(Useful strategies when friendship is used as a weapon)

The world of little girls begins as such a lovely place. Heart and rainbow doodles adorn notebook covers, best friendships are formed within seconds, and bold, exuberant voices carry squeals of carefree laughter and brazen delight. Happiness is worn on a sleeve, and anger is voiced with authentic candour.

Length-of-stay in this accepting, kindly world is time-limited for many girls, however. Seemingly overnight, sweet sentiments like, “I love your dress,” turn into thinly-veiled criticisms such as, “Why are you wearing that dress?” Yesterday’s celebratory birthday party becomes today’s tool of exclusion, as guest lists are used to enforce social hierarchies. Long before most school programs begin anti-bullying campaigns, young girls get a full education in social aggression.

What can adults do to help kids cope with inevitable experiences of friendship conflict and bullying? To Intervene or Not to Intervene?

Adults often struggle with the question of, “Should I intervene in a child’s friendship problems?” The line between helicopter and hands-off can get confusing, as adults waver between wanting to protect young people from the pain of broken friendships and believing that bullying is an inevitable rite of passage. The bottom line is this; no child should have to find her way through painful conflict alone. Kids need adult support and insights when it comes to navigating the choppy waters of friendship, disguised as a weapon. Here are some fundamental ways parents can help:

Teach Her to Know it When She Experiences It

One of the things that makes relational bullying so insidious is its under-the-radar nature. It is things left unsaid and invitations not given. It is unexplained cut-offs in friendship. It is silence. This type of bullying is marked by crimes of omission that make it very hard for girls to put their finger on what they are experiencing in their friendships—yet the pain, humiliation, and isolation are unmistakable.

Adults play a critical role in keeping an open dialogue with young people and making them aware of the typical behaviours that mark this cruel form of social aggression. Knowledge is power; when girls know what relational bullying looks and feels like, they are better able to make a conscious choice to move away from friends who use these behaviours.

Some of the most common bullying behaviours that adults can make kids aware of include:

  1. Excluding girls from parties and outings
  2. Talking about parties and outings in front of girls who are not invited
  3. Mocking, teasing, and calling girls names
  4. Giving girls the “silent treatment”


  1. Threatening to take away friendship (“I won’t be your friend anymore if…”)
  2. Encouraging others to “gang up” on a girl you are angry with
  3. Spreading rumours and starting gossip about a girl
  4. “Forgetting” to save a seat for a friend or leaving a girl out by “saving a seat” for someone else
  5. Saying something mean and then following it with “just joking” to try to avoid blame
  6. Using mobile phones and/or social media to gossip, start rumours, say mean things, or forward embarrassing posts and photos

Help Her Make Friends with her Anger

“Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry.” —Lyman Abbott

Anger is a normal, natural, human emotion. In fact, it is one of the most basic of all human experiences. And yet many girls, from a very early age, are bombarded with the message that anger = bad. Young girls face enormous social pressure to be “good” at all costs, a standard that makes it difficult for young girls to stop and say, “Hey. I don’t like the way you are treating me right now. I’m feeling angry about what you just said/did/pretended not to do, and I’m not going to let you treat me that way anymore.”

Adults who teach their children how to be angry effectively—by role modelling assertive communication skills and by accepting anger when it is respectfully expressed—fortify girls with the confidence to walk away from toxic friendships.

Encourage Her to Show Strength

When it comes to facing off with a frenemy, the best advice to caring adults is to teach young girls how to show resolute strength. Mind you, strength should not come in the form of physically or verbally aggressive responses that up the ante and escalate hostilities, but rather young people show strength when they use humour to deflect a situation and they stand up for themselves whenever their feelings are disrespected. A simple “Knock it off,” or “Tell me when you get to the funny part” is a simple, powerful signal that a girl will not allow herself to be treated poorly.

As for the “talking about their emotions” part, adults should make themselves available as a sounding board for kids whenever possible. Kids need to have a safe place to be vulnerable—to vent, to talk about their friendship frustrations, and even to cry. Parents, relatives, teachers, counsellors, and other caring adults are ideally suited to provide this safe place.

Teach Her to Know What She is Looking For

For school-aged children, friendships create a powerful sense of belonging. We want our girls to feel accepted and embraced by their peers—never to be used as pawns in someone else’s popularity game. Fostering discussions and careful consideration of the values involved in making and maintaining healthy friendships is one of the most important things adults can do to help girls choose friendships wisely.

Around the dinner table, after class, in the car whilst driving, or anytime the mood is right, strike up a conversation (or, better yet, a dozen ongoing dialogues) about the values kids should look for in a real friendship. Make it into a finish-the-sentence game with a starter like, A Real Friend is Someone Who… Hopefully, the end of a young girl’s sentence will sound something like:

  • Uses kind words
  • Takes turns and cooperates
  • Shares
  • Uses words to tell me how she feels
  • Helps me when I need it
  • Compliments me
  • Includes me
  • Is always there for me
  • Understands how I feel
  • Cares about my opinions and feelings
  • Stands up for me
  • Is fun to be with
  • Has a lot in common with me


When kids understand how a healthy friendship should look and feel, they are best equipped to extricate themselves from friendships that are toxic and damaging.

The friendships that are so easily formed between girls during their youngest years quickly become complicated as early as the middle secondary school years. Adults play the key role in teaching kids about healthy friendships and supporting them through the inevitable pains of toxic ones.

(Adapted from https://www.psychologytoday.com )

Community News

  • We continue to prayer for Ms Mai’s daughter, Milan, who is still undertaking regular treatment for a significant health condition;
  • Ms Parsons is in need of support and prayers as her grandmother is treated for a serious illness. After recently losing her mother, this has had a huge impact on Ms Parson’s and her family;
  • Please keep Miss Ibrahim in your prayers as she recovers from emergency surgery this week; and
  • Pray for the repose of the soul of Ms Cotten’s nan who was laid to rest this week.
  • Please pray for the family of Aecean Mislang of Year 11 who lost her grandmother this week.

Archbishop Anthony Fisher OP ‘Does Pope Francis support same-sex marriage’ 


Our mantra:

“Girls can do anything.
Bethany girls can do everything!*
(*except divide by zero)”



Vicki Lavorato



A Message From the Assistant Principal

Important Dates

  •  Monday 4/9- Friday 15/9: Year 11 Exam Block
  •  Tuesday 19/9: Year 12 Graduation Mass, luncheon and Awards Ceremony
  •  Friday 22/9: Last day of term. Students dismissed after Period 4



Learning Collaboratively- Why is it important?

 We are all different in the way we prefer to learn. Some students like to work in groups, and others prefer to work alone. Some students like to discuss things using google docs and some like to work together in person. There is a reason why we have the saying ‘two heads are better than one’.  Group tasks can be challenging but also rewarding and it is important that when students work in groups to complete tasks that clear expectations and guidelines are set out. Additionally there needs to be agreement on how to resolve differences of opinion. When group tasks are set at the college, in class time is usually allocated and students are able to use google docs to share and collaborate when at home.



Your daughter says she would prefer to work alone:

    •  It is great that you are very self-sufficient. Students who prefer to work alone are often confident in their own abilities. However sometimes these students make it more difficult for themselves by not asking for help when they need it. So if your daughter is this type of student, encourage her not to struggle on alone when she get into difficulties or doesn’t understand something. Being able to ask for help when she needs it is an important skill for academic success. Encourage her to try reaching out a little more when she needs help. Class teachers, Lifesavers, Number Crunchers, Science and HSIE Help Desks and after school support in the library are all places you can encourage your daughter to go if she needs assistance
    • Encourage your daughter to consider that when she talks about things with other people it can often help her to see things from a different perspective. By discussing ideas with another person, she also may find that she can clarify her own thoughts. By not being open to collaboration, she might not develop her ideas as well as she could or she might not see potential issues that a fresh pair of eyes and ears might discover. If she haven’t done much collaboration, encourage her to give it a try and she might be surprised at how valuable she finds the experience.
    • Once she is outside school, at university or in the workforce odds are she is going to need to work as part of a team. In advertising jobs, demonstrated ability to work collaboratively is often essential criteria.


      If she already loves working with other people:

    • Advise her to make sure that she always contribute equally and not expect other people to do all the work for her.
    • Collaboration doesn’t mean cheating. For example, it is ok to discuss an assignment and what you think it is about and how you might approach it, but it is not ok to write the assignment together and hand in similar pieces of work.
    • Collaboration also doesn’t mean wasting time. If she is working with other people, discuss ways to make sure the group is staying on task and not getting distracted. It is also important to meet agreed deadlines, so the whole group can move forward
    • Every now and then she needs to do things on your own. If she always does her Maths homework with her friends, she might not really know what she can and can’t do on her own. The first time she finds this out could be a test which could be a big issue. Ask – is the work you are doing is going to be enhanced by collaboration or if it is more appropriate to try the work on your own.
    • It is important each night she has a certain amount of homework/study time on her own. If she wants to collaborate when she is working at home, make specific times to do this. Don’t communicate the entire night with friends. Instead have set times for collaboration and set times for independent work.



Jacinta Russo

Assistant Principal

World Youth Day 2019

World Youth Day 2019

World Youth Day XXXIV will be held in Panama City from 22 – 27 January 2019.  Students who are enrolled in Years 11 or 12 in 2019 will be eligible to attend the international gathering as members of the Sydney Catholic Schools contingent.  Students who graduate in 2018 will also be invited to attend WYD as a part of a special post-school pilgrimage group.  

Information evenings will be held early next term – details of dates will follow shortly.

Please view the one minute WYD video which gives some insight into the exciting things to come at this wonderful event One Minute Video.

I would also like to share with you the Patron Saints of WYD Panama as listed below.  Why don’t you take some time to find out some information about these saints and see what they have contributed to make our world a better place and how these people are able to inspire and guide our lives as model examples of Gospel values?

  • Saint José Sánchez del Rio
  • Saint Juan Diego
  • Blessed Sor María Romero Meneses
  • Saint John Bosco
  • Saint John Paul II
  • Blessed Oscar Arnulfo Romero
  • Saint Martin de Porres
  • Saint Rose of Lima

Ask for their prayers as you set your eyes upon a deeper relationship with Christ and His Church.

I would also like to share with you the official World Youth Day prayer:

Merciful Father,

You call us to live our lives as a way of salvation. Help us to recall the past with gratitude, to embrace the present with courage and to build the future with hope.

Lord Jesus, our friend and brother, thank you for looking upon us with love. Let us listen to your voice as it resonates in the hearts of each one with the strength and light of the Holy Spirit.
Grant us the grace of being a Church that goes forth with vibrant faith and a youthful face to communicate the joy of the Gospel. May we help to build up the kind of society we long for, one where there is fairness and fellowship.

We pray for the Pope and the bishops; for young people; for all those who will take part in World Youth Day in Panama and for those who are preparing to welcome them.

Our Lady of Antigua, Patroness of Panama, help us to pray and live with generosity like yours: “I am the servant of the Lord. May it be done to me according to your word” (Lk 1:38).


Caritas Australia

During the month of September, Caritas Australia is running a campaign designed to support women in developing countries.  Often women need support in removing themselves and their children from domestic violence and need support in gaining independence and an occupation that will support their families. Much research has shown that where programs have been developed and funded which have been directly aimed at women allowing them to become self-sufficient and support their families, there has been much success for the women involved and indeed their wider communities.  Often the women who participate end up employing other women in their villages and the programs become a great success for all involved.  

If you would like to host a fundraising event on behalf of Caritas, I have included a link which will give you access to the Caritas Australia website and some further information about how any money raised may be utilized.


End poverty 
Promote justice 
Uphold dignity



Diane Kennaugh

Leader of Religious Education and Mission


What could be better than a sunny day walking the streets of Rome eating gelato and pizza? How about saving the massive airfare and doing it all right here in Sydney – Leichhardt to be precise!

Year 9 Italian were treated to a walking tour of the cosmopolitan Norton Street where so much Italian history is evident – the first fully-imported coffee machine, the travel agency that has been serving the community for over 40 years and the Italian Forum which was given as a gift by the NSW government to the Italian community in recognition of the contribution they had made to the country since they first migrated to Australia in the late 1800’s.

The students were informed about the hardships experienced by the Italians, particularly during the post-World War II period. What we take for granted today: buying petrol, accessing the radio and deciding where you lived and worked were denied to the Italians during this period because of the uncertainty present at that time. History has the ability to allow us all to appreciate what we have now, and what many had to overcome in order to achieve it.

The thinking caps came off and the gloves came on – students created their own pizzas under the watchful eyes of Lily our own masterchef and owner of Sweet Lily’s at the Forum. Needless to say the pizza, pasta AND gelato left everyone with a real taste of Italy in their mouths. A great way to end our short day trip through Sydney’s own “little Italy.”

Marco Gianni

Teacher-in-charge LOTE.



Hanami is a long-standing Japanese tradition of welcoming spring. Also known as the “cherry blossom festival,” this annual celebration is about appreciating the temporal beauty of nature. People gather under blooming cherry blossoms for food, drink, songs, companionship and the beauty of sakura (cherry blossoms).

In Year 9 Japanese we created our own “hanami” by having a lesson under the blossom tree enjoying an enormous sushi platter.


Rachael Colreavy

Language Teacher

PDHPE Department News

SCC Athletics Carnival:

Congratulations to all students who participated in the SCC Athletics Carnival at Homebush on Friday 25th of August. We had some fantastic results from the day as we were 1st place overall in the Junior division, 1st place overall in the Senior division, overall Most Improved for 2017 and Overall School Championships for 2017. We also had some great individual achievements. Well done to the following girls who were age champions for their age groups:












Aisha Kita-Leong                                  Lucy Flanagan                                     

12 years age Champion                       13 years age Champion  












Eva Kostopoulos                                 Kelly Wilson

14 years age Champion                      16 years age Champion


Congratulations to Eva Kostopoulos for breaking the 14 years High Jump record and Lucy Flanagan for breaking the 13 years 200m and 400m records. Well done and good luck to the following girls competing in the NSWCCC Carnival held at Homebush on the 15th September.

Aisha Kita-Leong

Erini Stravroulakos

Allira Giess

Lucy Flanagan

Grace Elliot

Eva Kostopoulos

Kristen Georgiou

Isabella Kopriva

Moya Denford

Kelly Wilson

Cate Hochwallner

Catelyn McKenzie

A fantastic effort by all girls. Congratulations to all involved.

Wheelchair Basketball Incursion- Year 9:

On Tuesday 29th August and Wednesday 30th August, Wheelchair Sports NSW presented their ‘Schools Road Safety and Wheelchair Basketball’ program to the Year 9 cohort. The incursion involved an educational talk on consequences of risks of the road and an outline of the challenges that people with disabilities face every day. The session concluded with students taking part in several games of wheelchair basketball versing one another and the presenters. Students were able to gain an understanding of disability sport and the abilities of people with a disability. Students enjoyed a fun and educational experience with a very valuable message.










Representative Sports Update:

Junior Soccer- 2nd

Intermediate Soccer- 3rd

Junior Basketball- 3rd

Intermediate Basketball- 2nd

Senior Basketball- 3rd

Senior Softball- 4th

Upcoming events:


CGSSSA Dance             Wednesday 13 September

NSWCCC Athletics      Friday 15 September

CGSSSA Volleyball      Tuesday 17 October

Rochelle Bailey

PDHPE Teacher

Hairspray JR


PERFORMANCE DATES: 7:30pm on Thursday 26 and Friday 27 October, 2017

At Hurstville Entertainment Centre, Marana Auditorium

TICKETS: Adult $25   Child $20

BOOKINGS: www.tickethost.com.au

(Please search HAIRSPRAY JR to find Bethany College dates)

Get in fast! If you have any questions, please feel free to contact Mr Skeen.

2017 Dance Elective Excursion ‘Bennelong’ Bangarra Dance Theatre

On Wednesday 26 July Bethany Dance students from Years 9 to 11 went on an excursion to attended a performance at the Sydney Opera House to view Bangarra Dance Theatre’s latest work “Bennelong”, a full-length work by Artistic Director Stephen Page. Prior to the performance, students were invited to attend a first ever background tour of Australian history, which was complimentary to the performance. The tour was thoroughly informative and designed to provide audiences with some background knowledge and understanding of the significance of the performance’s concept: “Bennelong”.  The tour was conducted around the grounds of the Opera House, including selected areas backstage. Using this background information from the tour, it was easier to identify and better appreciate the work’s mesmerising and incredible narrative. This captured the story of Woollahra Bennelong, a senior man of the Eora, from the Port Jackson area in Sydney.

Through the power, artistry and passion of the country’s most outstanding dancers, along with immersive soundscapes and exquisite design, we saw a performance of a unique Australian dance language. Through which, the company celebrates the continuation of life and culture. Overall, it was a visually spectacular and enjoyable performance to watch and analyse, summarising our study on Australian dance. The performance also provided an opportunity for students to build upon their Dance Appreciation knowledge and analysis skills. Ultimately, the excursion was extremely beneficial in educating and developing our understanding around Australian contemporary dance.

Dominique Kulchar –  Year 11 Dance

How to Overcome Worry & Anxiety…For Good!

As Assessment and exam blocks arise, some students begin to worry and feel anxious.  The following article from blogger Melli O’Brien may help with some strategies to overcome theses feelings:

Are you an excessive worrier?

When worrying becomes excessive, it can lead to anxiety, panic and even cause illness. When worried or anxious, your mind and body go into a state of ‘fight or flight’ as you constantly focus on “what could happen.”

Chronic worrying (often referred to as anxiety) can affect your daily life so much that it interferes with your work, appetite, relationships, sleep and reduces your overall quality of life.

Many people who suffer from anxiety get caught in the cycle of addiction in an unconscious attempt to control their inner turmoil.

They may over-eat, smoke, drink or take drugs in an attempt to get some relief. In extreme cases, when worrying and anxiety go untreated, they can lead to depression and even suicidal thoughts.

What Is The True Cause of Anxiety?

Often we believe that the causes of our worries – our tensions and anxieties – are from external things.

We may worry about whether we’ll have enough food on the table next week; whether we’ll be able to find a relationship so we are not alone when we get old; we may get anxious about our children, the stock market, our job security or any number of other things.We see these things as the cause of our worries.

How many times have you thought, “Oh, if only (fill in the blank) would happen, if only I had (fill in the blank), I would be happy and have no more worries!”

On closer investigation though, we can see that these external things – the relationship, children, the stock market – are not truly the cause of the negative emotional states of worry and anxiety.

Worries are caused not from the external circumstances of our lives, but the internal ‘circumstances’. It is caused by our worrying thoughts.

Recognize Worry For What It Really Is

Worry is not an externally caused condition. It is simply a particular type of thought—pattern, nothing more.

A ‘worry’ or ‘anxious’ thought occurs when the mind projects itself into the future and imagines something going wrong. What is the emotion generated by these types of thoughts or mental movies? Fear.

You may use more ‘socially acceptable’ words like stress, anxiety or worry but at the core of all these is fear. Though these imagined future events are not happening in reality, you are still going through the events in your mind.

Your mind cannot tell the difference between your imaginings and reality, so the thoughts have almost the same impact on you as the actual event would!

Chronic worry generates ongoing irritability, muscle tension, concentration difficulties, indecision and agitation just as though you were actually experiencing the things you’re worried about.

It results in you being “on edge” all the time and unable to relax. Learn to recognize worry and anxiety for what they are. Thought patterns. By doing so, they begin to lose their power to ‘take you over’.

A Way of Dealing With Worry: Label and Let Go

One technique for dealing with worry proposed by Dr Christopher Walsh is a technique he calls the “just worrying” labelling. It’s a very simple technique: whenever you find yourself worrying about something, note to yourself that you’re “just worrying.”

By doing this you become present as the witness of your thoughts instead of being completely taken over by them. You now have the power to choose to let it go.

After you label it, then turn your focus to your breathing or  just simply bring your attention into the present moment and what you’re doing. Every time you catch yourself worrying—no matter how often—you employ the technique again.

Don’t Fight the Feeling

Whatever You Fight, You Strengthen, and What You Resist, Persists – Eckhart Tolle

When using the “just worrying” technique, like any other mindfulness exercise, it is important not to fight your feelings. Don’t criticize yourself for having the feeling or try to force the thoughts out of your head. In short -don’t struggle with the thoughts.

Instead of fighting, observe your worries objectively and calmly. By labelling it “just a worry,” you mentally acknowledge its presence (you become aware of it) without giving it more importance or power than it deserves.

You don’t need to waste energy fighting it, but you also no longer follow it and ‘buy into it’. Acknowledge it, label it, drop it and move on from it.

I also highly recommended learning the invaluable skill of ‘mindfulness’ to strengthen your capacity not to be caught up in anxious thinking.

I hope this strategy helps you to you to cultivate a beautiful, worry free mind and a happy fulfilling life.


Source: https://mrsmindfulness.com/how-to-overcome-worry-anxiety-for-good/


Linda Robinson

Year 11 Coordinator



Last week was National Science Week and the theme was ‘Future Earth’.  Each day last week the Science Department posted facts on Sentral about the environment and sustainability initiatives. On Friday we hosted a Kahoot based on sustainability and general science knowledge and I would like to congratulate Izzy and Bianca from Year 11, who came in first place and Jemma, from Year 12, for coming second. Thanks to everyone who attended, I hope everyone enjoyed National Science Week and learned something about sustainability. 

Kiona Davies

Science Prefect 2017

Leadership Day at Patrician Brothers’ College, Fairfield

On the August 25, 10 students from Year 11 (accompanied by Ms Mirabello) attended Patrician Brothers’ College, Fairfield, to listen to keynote addresses from former Deputy NSW Police Commissioner Ms Catherine Burn and ultra-marathon athlete, motivational speaker and former Federal politician, The Honourable Patrick Farmer AM.  We had the opportunity to take part in a Q&A session with Mr​ Anthony Cleary ​(Director of Religious Education for Sydney Catholic Schools), Ms Anne Marie Elias ​(Chief Disruptor and Advocate for Social Change), Ms Ashley Killeen ​(Head of Marketing for OzHarvest), Hon Patrick Farmer AM ​(Ultra-marathon Athlete, Motivational Speaker and Former Federal Politician),and former Deputy NSW Police Commissioner Ms Catherine Burn.

We thoroughly enjoyed the day and gained an insight into the challenges involved in becoming a leader, as well as gaining knowledge regarding what it means to be an effective leader. When listening to the unique leadership experiences of each guest, we discovered just how much effort truly goes into being a successful and driven leader. As we move into Year 12 and adopt leadership positions within the school, all that we have learnt from this day will be taken with us and applied to our potential leadership positions in order to further enhance our skills. Towards the end of the day we came together in small groups with people from other schools, and it was an amazing opportunity to hear what other people had gained from this experience, allowing us to think about this in conjunction with what we had already gained.

We thank Ms Mirabello for allowing us to attend this event, as well as Patrician Brothers’ College, Fairfield for their hospitality as well as the invite to their annual leadership day. This was an extremely rewarding and enlightening experience for us all.

Yazmina Rouady and Georgia Robinson, Year 11

Students with Ms Catherine Burn

Students with The Honourable Patrick Farmer AM